Taking Care Of Yourself; A Lesson From the Flight Deck
I heard the best thing on a flight this morning. No, it wasn’t about free peanuts or moving about the cabin. Or surprise complimentary Bloody Mary’s (which didn’t happen).
I heard the best thing on a flight this morning. No, it wasn’t about free peanuts or moving about the cabin. Or surprise complimentary Bloody Marys (which didn’t happen).
“Please remember to put on your oxygen mask first before helping others.”
Apropos, as I was on my way to visit a friend recently thrown into a universe of no sleep, unkempt hair, long-lost pedicures, missed meals. You know, The World According to Mom. Welcome, my dear friend.
This phrase elicited a response from me (a silent one, of course…who yells out in the middle of a flight these days?): Am I not a bad person if I help myself first?
The answer, in some cases, is surprising—no.
We moms often find ourselves the last do things. The last to eat lunch. The last to go to bed. The last to do something we enjoy. I’ve often found myself standing at the door half-dressed, while everyone else is putting on coats to leave the house. Why we’re never the last one to get up in the morning, I don’t understand.
Putting ourselves last doesn’t serve us (or those around us) well. A woman disheveled, exhausted and stressed because her own needs haven’t been met, is a woman who doesn’t do anyone any good. There’s that oxygen mask analogy. Help yourself first, so you’re healthy/alert enough to help others.
It’s natural for us to put others’ needs in front of ours. That’s what moms do. Not always the best plan. Am I suggesting you bag a playgroup for a manicure? No. But there’s a happy medium between giving to others and giving to yourself. There’s nothing wrong with TLC for you from you.
I love rollerblading. So when my daughter was born, I invested in a jogger stroller. Now we rollerblade together. If you there’s something you like to do, do it. Fit it in. Like reading? Go to the library (ah, silence). If that’s not in the cards, try audio books during car rides. The spoken word might be soothing to you both. Motherhood isn’t a reason to give up hobbies. You were a woman before you were a mother.
Staying active doesn’t just mean running after a toddler, although that is a workout. I mean walking, running, going to the gym, yoga. Our daughter was introduced early on to daily walks. It was a non-negotiable part of our day. There are ways to keep in shape—some with the baby (Mommy & Me Yoga), some without (read: gyms with childcare).
How many days have I forgotten breakfast? Oh, wait. Scratch that. I have it every day. It’s called coffee. You make sure your child has healthy meals all day, why do you skimp on yours? Eat five small meals for the energy to take care of your family. And water bottles. Fill them. Use them.
Never underestimate the power of a spa trip. Get your roots done. A pedicure. A massage. Just relax, feel beautiful and forget that the grocery shopping needs to be done (it can wait), the laundry is in the dryer (it can wait) and you need to pay bills (ok, those can’t wait too long).
Let your spouse, family and friends know you need some “me” time. They’ll understand. And if they don’t, acquaint them with the saying, “When Mom’s happy, everyone’s happy.”
From editorial director to marketing specialist, copy writer to copy editor, Cheryl Fenton’s finger is no stranger to the pulse of today’s trends and goings-on in the worlds of fitness, fashion, travel, nightlife and beauty. And in 2007, she added motherhood to her ever-growing list of expertise. Maintaining a strong relationship with her first love of magazines, Cheryl now juggles her exciting career and a never-boring life with her daughter Cadence. With bylines in Glamour, Cooking Light, Wallpaper, Women’s Health & Fitness, Ocean and Elegant Wedding, and marketing creations for Global Goddess Beauty, Pur~lisse, Stride Rite and New Balance, her voice is well-known in the beauty, fitness and fashion industries. Her Easy Peasy blog will offer tips, tricks and products to help all moms-on-the-go be beautiful, fashionable, stylish and live life—all in record time. Cheryl is thankful for her laptop, Elegant Wedding, and marketing creations for Global Goddess Beauty, Pur~lisse, Stride Rite and New Balance, her voice is well-known in the beauty, fitness and fashion industries. Her Easy Peasy blog will offer tips, tricks and products to help all moms-on-the-go be beautiful, fashionable, stylish and live life—all in record time. Cheryl is thankful for her laptop, IPhone and naptimes. For more about Cheryl, visit cherylfenton.com.