Little babies. We love them. Fat little hands placed just so under a slumbering angel face. Little nakey bums toddling around. As nature intended. Sweet and simple.
You came into this world naked. Not just without clothes, but sans baggage, Prada or otherwise. But yet with all that lacking, you made the loudest statement you could ever make. This is me. Take it or leave it.
“Finding” ourselves is a constant battle throughout our lives. There’s the “leave me alone, I’m finding myself” in your teenage years. The “let’s party, and find ourselves” in college. Your early 20s brought you into the “look at me, I found myself” phase. The late 20s, the “I forgot where I put myself, so I’ll reinvent myself” phase. And my favorite, the 30s which, if you’re lucky, is the “I’ve found myself and I’m here to stay” phase. Hopefully, this is the one that sticks.
In order to make a statement, you first have to strip down to the bare you and decide what you want “you” to say. After all the clothing is gone, all the makeup washed off, are you the person you want to be? Do others see that person loudly and clearly? It’s not always the easiest thing to discover and follow through with. If fact, it’s difficult and takes time (the antithesis of Easy Peasy, I guess). It’s a worthwhile challenge I take on every day, as I strive to be a better wife, writer, woman, daughter, mother, sister and friend.
An exercise: describe yourself in three words (leave the “small-chested” or “big butt” comments behind, keep this positive). Characteristics you wished to be and think you have accomplished. Would others describe you in these ways as well? Have you made these statements through your actions or words? Something to think about.
It isn’t about what you wear. Those things just make you pretty along the way. Your wardrobe only works well, if you work it. And you can only make a statement if you have something to say. Having something to say takes confidence in who you are.
So make a statement. Be you, whomever you might be. Woman. Mother. Friend. Crazy cat person. Great dancer. Lover of all shoes. And be you loudly. Let your voice be heard. Let your smile be seen. Just do me a favor, make sure you don’t have lipstick on your teeth when you do it.
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