I’m not a drinker. I might have one or two drinks per year (mostly for social reasons) but that doesn’t mean I didn’t enjoy my life thoroughly before I had kids. It’s just that if I had to choose waking up at 6am for my kids and waking up at 6am for my kids with a hangover, I’d rather not do the latter.
But for some parents though, they are worried that their social drinking on the weekends might be impacting their kids without them even knowing it. I can’t say that this is always the case as I’ve seen children who have grown in alcoholic homes become teetotalers and vice versa. But for blogger Lisa Rabasca Roepe, she’s worried that with every sip she takes, her daughter is keeping an eye on her, and that might not be such a good thing.
The appreciation of good beer and wine has been part of our family culture since before she was born. I grew up in a large Italian family where the adults drank a glass of wine every night at dinner, and my husband has been brewing beer for the last 20 years. Ever since our daughter was a toddler, she has helped her dad during the brewing process by either stirring the pot, straining the hops or labeling the bottle caps.
Now that my daughter is 13, I’ve started to wonder what she thinks when she sees her parents having a drink each night or a few on the weekend with friends. At least once, she asked me if I was “really having another” when a friend and I were on our third beer. It was hard not to feel like she was judging me and I don’t want to send her mixed messages about drinking especially since she’ll be in high school next year.
Some of her peers might already be drinking — according to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, by the time adolescents reach eighth grade, nearly 50 percent have had at least one drink and more than 20 percent report having been drunk.
Honestly, I can’t judge anyone because we all know that alcoholism is a horrible disease, and it’s something I’ve seen in my own extended family. But does this mean that parents should be more conscious of their drinking in front of their children? Even if you only have one or two drinks a week, is this something we should really be ashamed of? I mean, we’ve all seen those memes on Pinterest, right?
While I know every situation is different, I would just hate to see those one or two drinks impairing a parent’s good judgment around their kids. Tell us Hot Moms, what has your experience been with drinking in front of your family? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section below!