Nooooooo! Ross Gellar always has the worst of luck, doesn’t he?
I’m sure it’s hard to believe, but it’s been well over a decade since we last saw the cast of Friends together on the small screen. Fast-forward to 2015, and we’re still talking about one of the most successful situation comedies of all time, as there’s a new fan theory that says Ross Gellar might have lost custody of his son, Ben.
Shocked? I know. Let’s back track a little here.
Blogger D.F. Lovett suggests that the reason why Ben basically disappears during the last three seasons of the show is that because Ross simply lost custody of the boy, who he shared with his ex-wife Carole.
Lovett writes on his website, “Sure, on first thought, Ross’s shenanigans seem just as cheeky and fun as the rest of the gang. He loves dinosaurs. He dresses up as the Holiday Armadillo. He claims to have invented the Got Milk? catchphrase. But what about all that other weird stuff he does?”
Are you freaking out yet? Because there’s more.
Lovett adds, “He sleeps with at least one of his students. He is known for being a terrible professor, both unethical and unskilled. And finally, worst of all, there is the situation with his children.”
While I always saw Ross as pretty quirky, the writer goes as far as calling him emotionally abusive.
He explained, “Sure, he mentions Ben in these last two and a half seasons, but does he have any role in Ben’s life? When he references Ben, is he referencing something that once was, a child he no longer sees or knows? Think about everything we know about Ross. He’s very jealous. He’s possessive. He’s arguably emotionally abusive … and, as the seasons unfold, narrowing down to the ending where he and Rachel end up ostensibly happy every after, he seems to be coming completely unhinged.”
Lovett continued, “Could she no longer handle his nice-guy syndrome and homophobic snickering? Did she decide to take full custody of her son? Did Ross even fight her for Ben, or just let him go, shifting his focus to the new baby he had with the woman of his obsession? He couldn’t even handle his daughter having a male caregiver. Perhaps his children met but the audience never saw. The more likely answer is that he was such a deadbeat father that he completely faded away from his son’s life, pretending to his family and so-called friends that he still saw a boy he barely knew.”
To read the full theory, head over to What Would Bale Do?.