Back when my daughter was born, my mother-in-law spent several weeks with us to help with our newborn baby girl. While I appreciated all of the home cooked meals, the help with the laundry and some general cleaning here and there, I’ll be pretty honest with you. It wasn’t always rosy. My MIL, just like other in-laws thought it would be a good idea to share her thoughts and opinions on child rearing while constantly reminding us how she used to do things some 30-odd years ago. And of course, she knew everything better and she was always right from how to properly feed a baby, change their diaper and put them to sleep.
And I’m not going to lie to you and tell you that I tolerated her unsolicited advice or was OK with her trying to give my daughter formula behind my back even though I was exclusively breastfeeding (she was convinced that I was starving my child). Instead, I changed her ticket and sent her home several weeks early. One of the reasons why is because she refused to hold our baby and wanted us to do the same. She said that the more way hold, cuddle and carry our newborn, the more we’ll spoil her and we’ll have a problem on our hands (quite literally). Instead, she thought it would be best for us to be near our baby at all times, but to just limit all the bonding.
Now there’s a new report that finally settles this debate, hopefully once and for all.
Although my instinct always told me that was the case, there’s some scientific reasoning behind it, too. Here’s why.