Sex…. It’s the talk that so many of us remember having with our parents and it’s the talk so many of our parents dreading having with us. Let’s Talk about…Sex I remember well my mother turning nine shades of red when she told me about the birds and the bees. That was over thirty years ago and now, the world is a much different place.
The America Academy of Pediatrics estimates that kids see over 15,000 advertisements a year. In many of those advertisements, sex is an underlying theme. That, along with the bombardment of sex on sitcoms and in movies, it has become essential for parents to speak to their children about sexuality and character.
But how and why?
To make this conversation less awkward and better received, Dr. Pepper Schwartz, one of the leading relationship experts in the country and author of Ten Talks Parents Must have with Their Children About Sex and Character offers a simple bit of advice.
“Keep it abstract,” Dr. Schwartz encourages. “Say something like ‘I’ve heard kids your age ___ what do you think about that?’ or ‘Have you seen something like ____ at school?’”
Not asking the child directly helps him/her better answer the question without being felt like they are under the magnifying glass.
Dr. Schwartz says when you don’t make the conversation confrontational or box in the person with yes/no questions, the dialogue has an easier tendency to flow.