Whenever my children refer to an adult (who isn’t a family member), I’ve always made them say, “Mrs. Rebecca,” “Mrs. Cristen,” or “Mrs. Stephanie.” Calling their friends’ moms by just “Rebecca,” “Cristen,” and “Stephanie,” just seemed a little informal to me.
When it comes to other adult figures like their teachers, of course I think they should refer to them by their last names. I might be alone in thinking this, but for children, every adult should have some kind of title or another, even if it begins with a “Mr.” or a “Miss.”
Stephanie Rodriguez-Moser of Scary Mommy recently brought the subject up in a blog post asking if it’s ok for kids to call adults by their first name. Here’s what she says:
I’m pretty sure that the vast majority of kids understand the whole hierarchy of adulthood thing. I’ve worked in daycares and volunteered in my kids’ schools. The children there (who called me by my first name, gasp!) never seemed to think that they shouldn’t take direction from me or be respectful of me because I have a first name. Then again, I also don’t assume that, by magic, the second the clock stuck on my 18th birthday, I attained a higher station in life.
There are a lot of times I still feel like maybe my continued success at adulthood is a farce. I can’t be Mrs. Rodriguez-Moser, because that lady has her shit together, you can just tell. Stephanie, well, you might expect her to order in pizza on a random Wednesday because food is a lot of work and to not even have a single pair of tights without a run. Danielle — excuse me, Mrs. Larkins — and I are the same age, but maybe she is less inclined to feel like she’s just barely managing to adult appropriately. Maybe she even makes the things she pins.
Ehhhhh, I don’t know. It seems like popular opinion might be split on this one, but call me old fashioned (or just Southern), but I think kids should learn some sort of respect, even if it’s just by using “Sir” or “Miss” when referring to adults they don’t know. Plus, it might not be totally about respect, but a sense of endearment as well, along with a cultural thing. Whatever happened to just being polite?!? Unless an adult specifically asks you to call them by their first name, then children should call them by their title or last name, but that’s just my opinion.
What do you think, Hot Moms?