Taking the Step From "Father" To "Dad"

Nov 4, 2009 at 5:14 pm |
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By: Nanny Stella

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Happy Dad’s Day

by Stella Reid

Taking The Step From “Father” To “Dad”

When I was growing up, I had a Father who believed that his role was to be a provider. His job was to put the food on the table (and for that I am grateful), but he didn’t believe he had to be a participator, and for that I am sad.

Today’s Fathers are being asked to be Dads. What’s the difference? Well, some time ago, a very wise man told me a story*:

A Man came home from work late again, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year-old son waiting for him at the door. “Daddy, may I ask you a question?”
“Yeah, sure. What is it?” replied the Father. “Daddy, how much money do you make an hour?”
“That’s none of your business! What makes you ask such a thing?” the Father said angrily.
“I just wanted to know. Please tell me. How much do you make an hour?” pleaded the little boy.
“If you must know, I make $20 an hour.”
Looking up, the boy said, “Daddy, may I borrow $9 please?”

The Father was furious. “If the only reason you wanted to know how much money I make is just so you can borrow some, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you’re being selfish. I work long, hard hours everyday and don’t have time for such childish games.”

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door. The Father sat down and started to get madder about his little boy’s questioning. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money? After an hour, he calmed down and started to think he might have been a little too hard on his son. Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $9. And, he didn’t ask for money often.
The Father went to his son’s room and opened the door. “Are you asleep, son?” he asked.
“No, Daddy, I’m awake,” replied the boy.
“I’ve been thinking. Maybe I was too hard on you earlier,” said the Father. “It’s been a long day, and I took my aggravations out on you. Here’s the $9 you asked for.”

The little boy sat up straight, beaming. “Oh, thank you Daddy!” he said. Then, reaching under his pillow, he pulled out some more crumpled bills. He counted the money; then looked up at his Father.
“Why did you want more money if you already had some?” the Father asked.
“Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do,” the little boy replied. “Daddy, I have $20 now. Can I buy an hour of your time?”

Being a Dad is not just about what you can provide. It’s about what you can do with your time. It’s not about the materialistic things. It’s about enjoying your kids and them enjoying you. It’s about helping your kids with their homework. It’s about you listening to them and making time on your calendar for them. It’s about giving them responsibility and disciplining them without losing your temper. First and foremost, it’s about being involved and interested.

To all of you out there, the Fathers striving to be Dads and the Dads working on being great Dads, have a fantastic day. I celebrate you all. And, to a great Dad in my life, my husband Mike – I say Happy Dad’s Day!

*You can find various versions of this story on the internet- Author Unknown.
Stella Reid is the co-star of the overnight hit Fox TV reality show “nanny 911” where she shares her child -rearing expertise with desperate parents, is a real-life “English Nanny”, having been raised in Burnley, Northern England where she received her accreditation in nanny/childcare.

She moved to the United States in 1989, where she has devoted her talents and “insights” and has literally “written the book” on how to effectively raise children of all ages. She co-authored “Nanny 911 : Expert Advice for All Your Parenting emergencies,” published by Harper Collins, a perfect sourcebook for dealing with everyday problems that have escalated to levels out of control.
Her passion is children – all ages, sizes genders and ethnic backgrounds.
The outspoken and sometimes painfully honest nanny of the group, Stella takes a no-nonsense approach to kid crises. Stella believes children need lots of love and lots of structure. Armed with 18 years experience and a very quick wit, Stella has dealt with children of all ages and can hold her own in any situation. Although she often uses humor to defuse a difficult situation, Stella isn’t afraid to speak her mind and isn’t worried about winning any popularity contests. Her motto is: “Never Fear Nanny’s Here”

Stella resides in Los Angeles with her husband Mike and her 16 year old step-son Justin. In March she opened The Nanny School of Los Angeles with her two partners a one-stop shop for parents and nannies.

By: Nanny Stella We couldn’t be more excited to announce the arrival of an extraordinary role model, TV star, loving step-mom and wife to Hot Moms Club. Nanny Stella from the hit Fox TV show Nanny 911 is going to let us in on her secrets, traditions and opinions of our parenting problems. Happy Dad’s […]