Ugh. I would like to think that there are more doctors out there who truly and honestly care about their patients more than their own needs. While I’ve been lucky enough to have fantastic doctors (and pediatricians) who have taken the time to listen to me, ask me questions and be genuinely concerned about the needs of my family, I’ve also heard of families who have had the opposite. And by that I mean, dealing with doctors who always have one hand on the door knob, scheduling your child’s birth around their vacation plans and treating their patients like another number in the book.
Whatever the case may be, I totally understand both sides of the story (because let’s face it, being a dedicated doctor is no walk in the park), but that doesn’t mean anyone should get the short end of the stick when it comes to their prenatal care. I’m sure a lot of moms out there can agree with me that being educated about your choices during your pregnancy and for your birthing plan is extremely important for not only you, but for your unborn baby as well.
Unfortunately, for mom Lindsay Scarborough Switzer from New Jersey, her birthing plan didn’t go as she had hoped. The 33-year-old attorney is now suing her doctor over a C-section fight in which she was “treating like a child.”
Check out some snippets of her story:
I got back on my hands and knees. She said, “This has been going on too long, I want to do a C-section now.” She asked me how big my first baby was and I said 5 pounds, 15 ounces. Then she asked how long I pushed, and when I said two hours, that’s kind of when she became unhinged — a switch flipped. I think she just didn’t want to wait two hours. She said, “Aren’t you getting an epidural?” When I said no, she asked if I wanted a pudendal block. I said I don’t know what that was, and my doula explained it’s [an anesthetic] shot to your perineum. I said, “No, thank you. Why would I want that?”
Then the doctor came over to me and said, “I’m trying to help you, and you’re not letting me, and I don’t like that. You’re a lawyer — what would you do if one of your clients wasn’t listening to you?” I asked why she was lecturing me, and she said, “I don’t need to lecture you, I can lecture my kids at home,” and kept talking to me, and I put my hand up and said, “Give me a minute, I’m having a contraction.” She said, “I don’t appreciate this,” and walked out of the room.
So she leaves again and comes back with the phone and hands it to my husband. It was another doctor at the practice, who said [it seemed like] a C-section was an option. While my husband was on the phone, she comes up to me and says, “If you don’t sign off on this C-section, I’m going to call legal people who are going to force you to do it.”
At this point, I had an oxygen mask in my hand and an open IV line, and I thought they were just going to knock me out. So I signed it.
To read the rest of Lindsay’s story, you can check out here, but let me just remind you that it is horrifying! Given her experience, all I can say is, KNOW your doctor and before you enter a labor and delivery room, make SURE you feel completely comfortable with the person who is helping you bring your child into this world.