WOW! This picture is something else. Now I want to start by saying that everyone is entitled to their opinion and here is mine. I find this to be so disturbing, I’m sorry, but I do. I don’t believe that this is healthy for ANY child. I truly believe that the most important job for a parent is to teach our children to become strong independent human beings so they can go out into the world and spread their wings and fly! Yes, of course they should be loved, but apparently, there are different versions of what parents call love.
Now, I looked into this “attachment parenting” (the name itself bothers me) and according to their belief, you can bottle feed as long as you hold the child the same way and switch sides and such. It says wean the way you would as if you were breast feeding. So, would you find it “normal” to see a 4,5,6 or 7 year old with a bottle? Of course not!!!! There is an age appropriate time to wean and it is NOT after toddler-hood! There is something very disturbing when a child is playing with his friends and runs up to mommy to ask for her boob! I truly believe that this “attachment ” is strictly for the parent NOT the child. If you want to cuddle and love them then cuddle and love them, they don’t NEED a boob in their mouth for a sense of security or to feel loved. Establishing that bond while building their self esteem through learning to become independent is what we should strive for. I see this attachment parenting as very conflicting and I believe damaging!
I also want to point out that this is by far NOT the norm and that is why is it causing such a stir. The numbers for breastfeeding alone are low. The numbers from the CDC (breastfeeding report card) states that only 74% of women start breastfeeding, 33% were only exclusively breastfeeding at three months and only a whopping 14% were still breastfeeding at 6 months. Now out of those numbers comes the extreme attachment parenting.
Lastly, I REALLY have a problem with the title that Time magazine decided to tie to this story. “Am I Mom enough?” What the heck does that mean anyway? I can tell you one thing for sure and that is, I am MORE then confident in my parenting thank you very much, and the fact that I didn’t breastfeed my 4 year old had nothing to do with it. I would love an explanation of what they mean by that! One thing they did do well was stir up controversy……good job on that!