Just like many long-time married couples, lots of partners fall into a sexual black hole very quickly when they’re married. And there’s no reason to be ashamed about it. Because let’s face it, we all go through the same things when it comes to marriage, raising kids, juggling our career and paying our bills on the time. Unfortunately, it just ends up on the back burner whether you choose to have it there are not.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. Sometimes all it takes is one little change to help bring back the spark in your marriage. Maybe you’d like to rediscover a stronger connection with your partner, deepen your own sexual self-awareness, or just have more fun in bed. Hopefully, these simply changes will make your sex hotter, happier, and just plain sexier.
Here are 6 things you’re not doing in the bedroom that might be holding you back!
1. Change the Setting
You may not be able to dash off for a weekend getaway in a luxurious hotel every weekend but there’s no harm in changing the setting once in awhile. I know, you graduated high school years ago but try spicing things up by being adventurous or maybe going back to the first few places that you and your partner first made love. You’d be surprised just how roomy the back of that old Subaru really is.
2. Keep Your Judgment to Yourself
Look, your in the bedroom with your man for a reason. You’re already attracted to him enough to be there. There’s no reason for you to spoil the mood by being judgy, needy, moody or just plain bitchy. If he wants the lights out, turn the lights out. If he wants to listen to Marvin Gaye, then for goodness sake listen to Marvin Gaye.
Also, do not make any comments about the size or shape of his body, you wouldn’t like it either. There’s nothing worse than being a mood killer only moments before you start getting busy under the sheets.
3. Explore More
Don’t ignore your partner. Trust me that there’s no fun in doing the missionary position for ten years of your marriage without trying anything new. Explore more! Communicate with your partner and listen to his or her needs. For a healthy sex life, listen and watch for indications of both pleasure and discomfort, always adjusting accordingly.