6 Tips to Handle Criticism
By Brenna Hicks
Here are 6 tips to handle criticism.It’s happened to the best of us: After your boss disapproved of your work, you found yourself fighting back tears (or getting angry). It’s a common reaction. But dealing with negative comments without having to reach for a tissue is important. In fact, learning how to accept — and learn from — criticism can strengthen relationships and advance your career. Here are some tips on how to deal with any potentially stinging comment:
1. Breathe. Although you may feel yourself getting upset or defensive, take a deep breath. Feel tears starting to well or your temper starting to rise? Step away from the situation. That gives you time to cool off and gain perspective, so you can respond appropriately.
2. Pinpoint the emotions underneath. Ask yourself: What’s the real reason I’m upset? Is it shock? Fear of failure? Identifying the root of your emotions can help separate your feelings from the situation — so you can process the comment objectively.
3. Consider who’s giving the criticism. If his or her opinion matters, the comment has more weight. Understanding the other person’s viewpoint can help you evaluate your own behavior. But if the person who made the remark doesn’t matter as much to you — say, a stranger or random coworker — realize that allowing their critique to bother you gives them power that they don’t deserve.