As a parent you want to be there for you child’s first steps, their major milestones and of course for every moment you can cuddle, kiss, or just spend quality time together. But often times mothers are torn between their work, responsibilities and deadlines and just getting on the floor and playing a game with their kid. Or worse, getting upset in front of their child and having an epic, regrettable meltdown.
It’s most often called “mommy guilt” because we moms tend to berate ourselves—and be judged by others—for our child rearing, but fathers experience this guilt as well. No matter how hard we try to get rid of the feeling, it comes with the territory of being a parent.
Here are 9 things moms feel guilty about every day
1. Working Too Much
As a mom who works from home, I sometimes feel that no one takes me or my work seriously. I have deadlines that have to be made, posts that have to be written and emails that have to be responded to. And my children (along with some of my family members and friends) just don’t understand that.
Working as home makes me feel probably even more guilty than if I worked in an office because my kids see me everyday. And because they see me, they want my attention but unfortunately, I just can’t give it to them until the work is done.
This one kills me the most. I know I’m not supposed to do this, but each and every time I yell at my children, I feel awfully guilty about it later on. And I think about it so much that I end up tip-toeing into their rooms to cuddle with them while they are sleeping in bed. Disciplining my children is perhaps the hardest part of parenting for me.
And while I completely understand that I shouldn’t yell at them, I would be lying to you if I said I never did it. Because using a normal toned voice doesn’t get the message across. But when I start yelling, man do they listen!
3. Sibling Jealousy
As a parent, I try to give both of my children equal attention but it doesn’t always work out that way. In fact, it’s pretty tough trying to take care of a newborn (who basically needs you around the clock) while your toddler is clinging on to you throughout the day.
Children often feel they are getting unequal amounts of your attention, discipline, and responsiveness, making parents feel extremely guilty about it. With that being said, I try to find special alone time with each one of my children while also trying to nurture a unique strength for each sibling.