If I could do it all over again, I would probably rewind the clock and practice a little more patience with my babies. As a first time mother, I’ll be honest that I really didn’t know what the heck I was doing. And while I was trying to figure out the rules by myself, I was also stubborn in refusing to take advice from my relatives, including my own mother and mother-in-law (along with their offer for help at the time).
Being a mother is definitely no walk in the park. And when you have a baby that can’t tell you why he or she is crying, refuses to sleep in the middle of the night when you are completely exhausted or would rather fall asleep at the nipple rather than breastfeed, it just adds to your frustrated. Luckily, we have a list of six things that new mothers want you to know, including the good, the bad and the downright ugly.
Here are 6 things first time mothers want to tell you.
1. Your Baby Will be Fed
It doesn’t matter if you are breastfeeding or bottle-feeding. It doesn’t matter if you do it first thing in the morning, during Real Housewives of New York marathons or while having dinner with your spouse at your favorite sushi restaurant.
Your baby will be fed and your baby will let you know when enough is enough (or if it’s ever enough to begin with). Forget what experts or sanctimommies have to say about the breast versus bottle debate. Feed your baby the best way you see fit.
2. The Frustration Won’t Last Forever
I know the crying might feel like it’s lasted for weeks or even months at a time, but don’t worry because eventually it will stop. The crying will turn into whining, moaning, groaning and sometimes even shrieking, but it’s all part of the communication process. With that being said, your frustration won’t last forever, too.
Patience, love and understanding will help get you through this rough patch between you and your child.
Yes, you will feel lonely at times. Yes, you will feel desperate and bewildered. And yes, you will find your friends and family that will help you get through your most questionable moments. Don’t give in. Don’t give up.
Between the sleepless nights, feeding challenges, spit-up stains and sexless marriage, it will get better. Whether you choose to keep positive or be realistic about the situation, remember that this is only a stage and that it won’t last forever.