Just like many couples, when my husband and I first tied the knot, we were in marital bliss. We did al of the wonderful things that newlywed couples usually end up doing together including romantic date nights, last-minute weekend getaways, and (my favorite part) getting to sleep in our stress-free environment. In other words, we enjoyed every second that we had with each other, no matter how boring or mundane they were.
Fast forward 15 years, two kids, one dog and several (deceased) fish later, and some days I don’t even recognize who my husband is. I mean, I know I married him but he definitely isn’t the same guy he was the day I first met him. And I’m sure he could say the same about me.
The way you raise your children, and parent for that matter, has a profound affect on your marriage. You are pulling in one direction while your spouse is pulling in another, with your children stuck in the middle.
Here are 9 parenting mistakes that are potentially ruining your marriage
1. Fearing Your Child
I know it might sound silly (or bizarre), but there are parents out there that really fear their child. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, ask parents of teenagers who think that making threats will give them leverage at home. If that weren’t enough there are 3-year-old monsters out there who really are frightful (big) little things. Both you and your partner need to stand up to him or her, no matter how scary it might be.
2. Spoiling Your Child
In other words, you’re the “yes” parent. Each Amazon prime package that ends up in front of the door is exclusively for your kid. Cookies for breakfast and ice cream for dinner is the norm. Both you and your partner are doing yourselves no favors by raising a spoiled child – especially if it makes you his or her personal slave. You’re marriage will surely suffer from all the energy you spend on your kid.
3. Never Saying No
This especially applies to money. You don’t want to be the easy going parent that always gives your pre-teen $50 for a night out with friends, and especially not behind your partner’s back. Both you and your partner have to be on the same page when it comes to money and the distribution of it in your household.