Sexing Up Your V Day
While some people hate Valentine’s Day, I relish in it. I love nothing more than cute pink hearts, huge stuffed monkeys wearing boxer shorts and chocolate… lots and lots of chocolate. I start planning for V-Day months in advance. I plan out the gifts and the card (always handmade with love). I put a lot of thought and energy into this holiday because, while some claim it a commercial holiday, I find it the perfect day to shower your honey in lovey-dovey gushiness and not have to explain why you’ve draped yourself across your hubby’s lap.
After I’ve gotten everything in line for the gift and planned the menu for dinner and dessert, I plan out the most important part of the night, the part that involves no kids and a ton of naughtiness. While I firmly believe in an active and healthy sexual relationship, you should treat everyday like Valentine’s when it comes to sex, kids and work tend to get in the way of that thinking. Valentine’s Night is the perfect night to bring it all back to life.
Valentine’s Night needs not to be orgy-filled or anything drastic, unless you’re up for that, it can be romantic and intimate. I suggest you visit your favorite naughty boutique and stock up on a few essentials you’re husband or partner would sure to appreciate.
The Shopping List:
Lingerie- Think sheer, silky, scrappy, and tiny.
Find something that makes you feel gorgeous. The perfect piece of lingerie that makes you feel womanly and seductive. Do not think about that post-baby belly or the jiggle in your thigh, your man will not be searching for your flaws; he will be blinded by your beauty. Don’t be afraid to skip lingerie in favor of dressing up like a school girl or some other fantasy you’re man has, he will truly (truly) appreciate it if you did.
Heel- the higher the better.
Never underestimate the power of a pair of stripper heels. While you might gawk at them, the second you slip them on you whole world will change. Your legs will look longer, firmer, sexier. Make sure you practice walking around the house before you reveal them to your husband; your confidence in mastering such high heels will have him drooling.
Layer it on and tease it up. Tonight isn’t about looking like you’re not wearing make up and not trying. Sex it up with heavy eyeliner and dark red lipstick, don’t worry about looking like a fool, as long as you have the confidence you can pull any look off.
Perfume/Lotion- Scent is everything.
Find a sexy scent and spray it on your pulse points. I recommend finding a new, lush heady scent for this event. A scent that will make you think of sex is recommended, you can tease your husband with this scent in the future, it will remind him of that night you shared….
Toys- and not the kind lying around the house.
Most women feel embarrassed by the mere mention of sex toys, but sex toys can take your sex life to the next level. Make sure you are completely comfortable before venturing into this area, if you’re not open to this experience, skip it until you are. Sex toys range from small vibrating eggs to monstrous dildos so you have tons of options. Pick something fun to try out or purchase more than one for variety. If you’re not ready for toys, try some scented massage oils or a naughty card game to play together.
Confidence brings it all together.
A sexy woman is the one with confidence burning in her eyes and swaying in her hips. There’s no need to be afraid or embarrassed when it comes to lighting a fire in your sex life, this is your man, your partner, he will be so flippin’ excited about this that he won’t notice if you can’t pole dance or give a coordinated lap dance, all he will care about is that you’re doing it.
Strip It Down… and Off.
Let the games begin and you’re guaranteed a night of great sex.
By: SuZ Besecker