Good parents want their kids to stay out of trouble, do well in school and go on to do awesome things as adults. As parents, we all want our kids to be successful in life — no matter how we define what that looks like. Sure, I want my children to be healthy, happy that grow up to be normal adults that contribute to our society, but at the same time I want them to feel comfortable with their status in this world, too. I don’t want them to have regrets and “what if’s” as adults.
With that being said, there’s no formula that will guarantee success, especially when it comes to raising our children. Simply put, it’s not a direct science. But there are things you do can to help them along the way. That’s why we’ve complied a list of things that parents do to help raise successful kids. Tried and tested, these 16 things deliver results.
Now, I can’t guarantee that these will work for everyone – as every child responds differently to the things you present to them in life – but it’s worth a shot. Right?
Here’s what you need to do to raise successful children
1. Let Them Play
Successful kids are ones that had unstructured, uninterrupted play. Believe it or not, this helps nurture relationship building skills at an early age. Play is important to healthy development of the brain; Undirected play helps children learn how to work collaboratively, to share, to negotiate, to resolve conflicts, and learn self-advocacy skills.
2. Help Them Build Relationships
The most powerful way to teach children how to create healthy relationships is through your relationships with them. Babies are born with a drive to relate to and connect with others, and they continue to develop the social skills necessary their entire lives.
When young children experience people helping, understanding, and enjoying them, they approach the world with openness and enthusiasm, and they grow to be responsive and caring people.
3. Don’t Tell Them They Can ‘Be Whatever They Want to Be’
Sure, I wanted to be a rocket scientist, a teacher, a film director and a librarian – all at once – when I was growing up. And while it’s great to have dreams, we need to be a little more realistic with our kids.
Don’t tell them that they can be whatever they want to be. Instead, start by giving them the necessary tools – like a solid education – so they can succeed on their own.